Emotional intelligence.

Let us talk about emotional intelligence or maturity, something that most people in today's world lack for some unknown reasons.

In my own understanding emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions as well as other's feelings and knowing how to healthily acknowledge and deal with your emotions and that of others. And as  much as  everyone loves to believe that the more aged someone is the more mature they are , these people are so wrong. They confuse experience for maturity. Those two are very  different things  on their own although equally important .

this concept is not new to me because I have always believed myself as more emotionally mature than any person I know. Suppressing your emotions is such an unhealthy thing to do to yourself. Suppressing your emotions can look like...an eating disorder or as simple as scrolling through social media to distract yourself when you  are upset at  something or someone and  want to  avoid it [you should rather do the opposite , but more on that later]. But then you have just put the emotion somewhere within you later to be dealt with and then you forget about it. But the problem arises when these very emotions comes back to you after a certain period of time and haunts you. A few examples are emotional outbursts, getting irritated easily or getting angry for no reason, finally crying for no reason. And after constant suppressing it finally turns into anxiety or even worse depression.

One way to combat  this is to feel the emotion right when it arises rather than keeping it for later. tell yourself " I allow myself to feel this emotion fully" . Sit with it for at least 5 mins and let it pass rather than hyper-fixating on it. Remember that  no matter how something  or someone pisses you off , at the end of the day , your feelings are your responsibility. How you spend your time and energy is your responsibility. Journaling and meditating are two often heard but very popular ways to regulate your emotions as well. [fun fact : studies have found that overtime meditation can actually change your brain for the better]. Another is self talks or mirror talks. as weird as this may sound , it works the best and quickest. just going inf in front of the mirror looking yourself dead in the eyes and asking yourself "how are you feeling and why are you feeling this way". the answers just come naturally and overall its really insightful and you get to learn so much about yourself.

it is high time we finally realize , understand and acknowledge  that suppressed feelings just suffocates you from within. It is time we realize that every single day every single person around us is trying to give their best to the world . We try to be our best selves for ourselves and our loved ones. it is not easy but we do it every single day. Rather than instantly lashing out at someone , it is  better to analyze first and react next. So the next time face with a situation where we victimize ourselves , declare ourselves as the  just one we can take a step back and think where the other person is coming from and empathize with them.