We all say "new year, new me," but how many of us actually follow through? Very few, maybe even fewer than that. So it’s time we change that.
First thing, we set such huge goals and aims that just looking at them overwhelms us. The thing is, we don’t have to do everything at once, we need to break it down into smaller tasks every day. For example, if our goal is to score 95% in the final exams this year, studying the day before won’t help at all. It might seem cool when classmates tell you, “I didn’t study at all, and still got good marks, that’s talent,” but that’s not talent; it’s plain foolishness. Please, don’t do that. Instead, break down your goal so that you’re doing a little bit of work every day. For example, in January, thoroughly study 4 chapters in each subject, in February study these chapters, in March practice questions so by the time the exams come, you’ll have inner confidence that you’ve studied all year and you can do this. Do the same for all your other goals.
Next point is about failure. I fell into this trap last year. When setting goals, please remember that failures will come. There is no successful person in this world who hasn’t fallen a thousand times before getting up. The path to success has never been straight, and it never will be. A setback, like skipping one day of studying or procrastinating, makes us suddenly feel demotivated. We question whether we’re meant for this life or not. But truly, it’s because you are making progress. These small failures are like tests to see how badly you want to achieve your goal. Will you stay stuck in the cycle of failure, or will you bounce back? The choice is yours.
Your changing habits or behavior will never last. No, I’m serious. Because you are only changing externally; the real essence of change lies within, that is, in your mind. Until you understand what triggers you, and why it triggers you, and don’t sort it out, no matter how many new habits you adopt, they will just be a facade. So this is your reminder to study yourself...
You are the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with. Trust me, you can analyze a person’s nature just by observing their friend circle. This applies to you too. I know cutting toxic people, especially friends and family, from your life is not easy. But we can minimize contact. We can keep replies short, avoid unnecessary drama, and energetically distance ourselves. Then, we can divert that energy into watching educational videos, reading books, or listening to podcasts, etc., so that these things become part of our inner circle.
What is your “why” factor? If it’s something like “I want a big house” or “I want this much money,” then why? There must be a reason. If it’s just about becoming rich and passing time, then it needs to be something stronger. For example, "I want this much money because I want to support my family, I want to help homeless people, I need to give myself the life I truly deserve, I want freedom." So what I’m trying to say is that your end goal should be connected to some deep value of yours, like helping others, kindness, peace... For me personally, it’s freedom.
Hard work alone isn’t enough. Seriously, you need to pair hard work with smart work, i.e., manifestation. Visualize your dreams. Watch them happen and feel the emotion. And this is not a one-time process. Today, you may succeed, tomorrow you might fail, but you need to keep visualizing. When you literally feel your dreams coming true, there’s no way you won’t take action. It’s like, I already know the climax; I just need to write the story in between. If the main character has success at the end, what did they do throughout the movie?
Sunday is a buffer day. I plan my Sundays in such a way that if any task from the week is pending, I must complete it. But if I’ve completed all my work for the week, then Sunday becomes my movie day. Light studying and lots of journaling, and basically doing everything I enjoy. So, I have this low-key warning for myself: If I don’t finish my tasks, Sunday will go, and so will my movie night.
Forget about it. Forget about the big goal, how it will happen, when it will happen, when and where. Just focus on the 24 hours at hand. What you do in these 24 hours is in your hands, not whether you’ll achieve it tomorrow or not. Thinking so far ahead immediately makes my mind confused and I get demotivated, like "There’s so much to do." First, just focus on today, what can you do in the present moment? Let’s deal with tomorrow when it comes. You need to repeat this every single hour, every single day.
Inconsistency will come in the journey, and that’s normal. It’s not necessary that if you did something last year, you’ll do it this year too. People change, mindsets change, and we grow. At such times, it becomes your responsibility to find solutions rather than getting demotivated. Try new systems and processes. Especially, journal and document everything for the future. Because next time when you feel like you can’t give your 100%, look at your old journal entries and understand yourself.
And finally, please don’t be impatient. The growth process is painful and uneven. You cannot expect to live your ideal life in one day or one week, nor will your subconscious behaviors change overnight. Growth takes time and consistency. One day you might be living your ideal life, and you might expect a drastic change overnight, but that doesn’t happen. Don’t give up when the results don’t show up. Something motivates me in these moments: If I give up after 7 days of effort without seeing results, who knows, my success might be waiting for me on the 8th day, and I just gave up when I was so close.
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