My not so popular views

Hi ! First of all , thank you so much for reading my blog. This is my first blog where I am going to be sharing some of my not so popular views on some random topics . This is not a specific blog about any topic but rather a collection a few of my thoughts. The upcoming ones are going to be more specific on the lessons that I learned over the years that I have spent on this planet.

In life we meet countless number  of people . Although we know only a few hundred of them...or at least we THINK we do. Because in reality we don't know anyone. We just know an IMAGE of them that they decided to show to us. And most of the times we come to the conclusion that this person is like this, their nature is that , only because they showed us that . But i get it . In todays hustling world the highly advanced 21st century no one really has the time to interpret what the other person is going through or if what we are seeing is just a cover. Not going to lie today half the people are so cruel and mean . Hence the cover is kind of understandable. Not that it's a good thing but more of a protection shield. That leads me to my next point.

We fear. We fear to get critically judged for being ourselves and i guess that's why we have trust issues. Society and people are just so god damn controlling that they can't stand a fearless and independent person not afraid of judgement and being themselves . When a child is born it does not has any thoughts or beliefs of its own. As  it grows up those are instilled in its mind . There is  this unsaid ruling in the society of do's and don'ts, bad and good, wrong and right . Yes some of it is totally justified and necessary but a large part of it is pure BS . These rules are the reason for us having the fear of being perceived  , that if you do not follow the dumb rules  made by the people and society you are  now on the wrong side and wrong is  automatically condemned a bad . As humans it is  natural for us to seek approval . But to let that approval turn into  validation and influence your actions is what is wrong . All of this judgment I think it comes from people's own insecurities . But 80%  of people do not realize it and go on with their whole lives criticizing and blaming others for their own problems. I believe it all just ends if we take the time to just focus on ourselves and take responsibilities for our own action whether good or bad.

Speaking of responsibilities , I read in this book that sometimes we ought to take responsibilities of actions which never involved us . For example your car broke down oin the middle of the road. It wasn't your fault someone just put nails on the road . Now it is up to you if you take the responsibility to change the tier ,  ask for help or you can just find that someone and curse the shit out of them .In short you always have the choice. The circumstance might be bad but you decide how you react to it.

I guess the world would have been a much better and peaceful place if  the internet was not there. If social media was not there. If people were not so addicted to phones and technology and internet and social media. Social media did connected us virtually but it crushed our reality. I know it sounds a bit ironic because this blog  also comes under the category of internet . But benefitting from some merits does not means you ignore its demerits . Similarly loving someone does not means ignoring there toxicity.

Being an introvert is such a trend these days. Even i fell into it until i realized that it is so overrated. You wont believe it but majority of the people today just wanna be by themselves and not talk to anyone  , like literally avoid human contact .  This is so unhealthy because we humans are social being . We need interactions constantly with other humans, nature, and other species to survive. Now , by no way am i saying that if you truly are an introvert , stop being one and become a social butterfly. NO. That is just not possible. Being introvert means deriving your energy from your own alone time . But many are getting it confused with hibernating these  days. That it is cool to not have any true friends or cutting off your family. Being an introvert myself I know that it is simply not what it means to be an introvert. Rather introverts can be very talkative  around the people they trust and love.

That brings me to the end of  my first blog. hope you guys enjoyed reading it. make sure comment and state your views on these topics.